Information can be powerful. For a consultation with an advocate of domestic violence to ensure you safety plan is comprehensive contact Resolve or Interval House. Resolve Counselling Services Kingston at 613- 549-7850 or Kingston Interval House crisis line at 1-800-267-9445 (Kingston local 613-546-4461).
Your safety is the most important thing. You can’t control your partner’s abusive behavior, but you can take steps to protect yourself and children from harm. Whether you decide to stay or end the relationship, you should consider creating a safety plan. A safety plan is a personalized and practical plan for reducing your risk of being hurt by your partner. By thinking through it in advance, a safety plan can help you avoid dangerous situations and know the best way to react when you are in danger. It is important to consider not only an action plan if an incident occurs but also how you can stay safe long term, at work, or in the event drugs or alcohol is being consumed. Domestic violence is emotionally draining and options for reducing this emotional burden is also discussed in this safety plan.
Make sure to ask yourself the following questions to assess your own situation:
- Does the abuser change just before becoming violent (e.g., does his/her voice deepen or face change colour)?
- Does your behaviour change before violence (for example, do you experience headaches)?
- What circumstances usually exist before you are abused (for instance, pay day, sporting event, alcohol etc.)?
- Has the abuser threatened to kill you, your loved ones, or him/herself?
- Is your separation pending? Or, are you serving court orders?
- Are you in a new relationship?
- Are you pregnant?
- Does the abuser have access to weapons?